I was raised by a first wave feminist and taught about equality and women’s rights growing up. That was decades ago though, back when men and women could get along. Over the last decade I have watched feminism come to dominate the political and social worlds, even the world of social media, the dating world, the sex ed world, and other niche communities, such as the online dating industry, the porn industry, and the Kink/BDSM world, and basically any social community or industry where male/female sexual dynamics are the focus. This has made the social world at large a gynocentric culture which caters to women at the expense of men. Since the third and fourth waves of feminism have emerged (which are more about women winning the battle of the sexes than equality,) there has been a growing trend of women who feel a need to emasculate men and make men feel like less of a man. This is most commonly and done with the phrase we are all too familiar with of “you are not a real man”. We have all heard this phrase used to such an extent that it has become cliché. There is no good reason for it, and they only do this in order to coerce a man to try to behave the way they want, by attaching his sense of identity as a man to the behavior they want him to exhibit, and a break down of said identity to his non-conformity. This is similar to gas lighting and is an incredibly toxic sociopathic thing to do to someone. But women these days seem to love emasculating men because it not only is a great form of ammunition they can use to try to get the man to conform to their wishes, but it makes them feel powerful. This a very dark trait that is ironic because it is most often done by women who have a feminist “girl power” attitude, but yet they are completely ignoring the fact that this is actually an extremely and extraordinarily sexist thing to say to someone. This is so far beyond any form of sexism that feminism has rebelled against.
Women want to be dominated. They enjoy being submissive. If you understand the nature of the yin and yang archetypes and energies, you know that the female archetype is yin, and the male archetype is yang. Feminine polarity is receptive, passive, and submissive, masculine polarity is proactive, aggressive, and dominant. It is the nature of the female spirit to be submissive to the dominant male spirit. This is generally speaking of course and is true for most women, with the few exceptions of the women out there who prefer to be the sexually dominant one in their relationships, but they are the exception and not the rule. Generally most (about 70%) of all women are submissive. And while many men are not dominant, it is not because they are not dominant by nature, for masculinity is dominant by nature. It is because they have been taught that it is improper to be too foreword or aggressive with women, and that if they do they will be seen as being “Creepy” or “perverted” etc. However nothing could be further from the truth.
This is in fact the proper way for a man to behave when relating to women, if he wants them to be attracted to him and to be successful with them sexually. Though many men have been made to be weak and timid with women by their social conditioning, and submissive and supplicating towards them by their mothers. They have been taught to just be nice and not to be too proactive or assertive, and have even been made to feel insecure and ashamed of their sexuality, and do not have the confidence they need to succeed with women. So you must shed this attitude and realize that men are naturally dominant, and that it is in fact what women want. There is nothing wrong with being aggressive or dominant with women, they like it and want you to do it. They just don’t want to have to tell you that, they want you to be the one to take the initiative to go for what you want, that is attractive. And they want a good man to be able to submit to sexually to seduce them and give them pleasure. Submission is something that women desire greatly and find a lot of gratification in. Many women even consider male dominance necessary for their relationship to be satisfactory. When you are dominantly seductive you are giving the woman a gift of pleasure.
One thing that really pains me as someone who educates people about dating and relationships is when I see all the bad advice out there that is given to women. Most women get the worst advice from friends and family who aren’t experts and are just saying things that they think sound good, and even from dating coaches which really only tell women what they want to hear because they know they will make more money doing so. The truth is that this information they are getting is hurting them, not helping them. Because of that more women are single than ever before and this is largely due to all of the misinformation they get about dating and how to get into a good relationship with a quality man. This is in part due to the fact that they would rather be listening to advice that sounds nice or tells them things that they want to hear rather than advice that is true and practical and works. But eventually I suppose any of these women will have to get frustrated enough to want to actually face the facts and learn the truth about what they actually need to know and what will work. And that is what I am going to give you here. As a man, who can assure you from talking to thousands of other men over the years that these are the 30 things definitive things that will make or break a relationship with a man. And coincidentally these are the 30 main things that most women are doing totally wrong in dating and I’m sure are the main causes of them not being able to get or keep a quality guy. So here to make sure you now can, I give you the 30 do’s and don’t’s of how to get and keep a quality man.
Relationships all begin for the same basic reason. We have someone who we find agreeable enough that we find ourselves in accord with them on a number of things, and so we think to ourselves, “I like this person, I would like to sign up to spend more time with them.” Sociologically speaking a relationship is simply a social construct in which two people are continuing to interact over a prolonged period of time. In other words, they continue to sign up to interact over time, and their mutual agreement to do so forms the basis of their relationship, and their series of interactions, forms their relationship itself. Likewise relationships all end for the same basic reason. People think to themselves “This isn’t’ what I signed up for, I do not agree to this.” It may not be those exact words verbatim, but it will be some version of that, such as “I am not ok with this”, or “this doesn’t work for me”, or “I do not like this or want this anymore”, or “I did not know it was going to end up being like this, this isn’t what I wanted.” But whatever the cause they either do not find the person/situation/relationship agreeable anymore, and/or did not know that it was going to be like this and that this is what they had inadvertently agreed to when they signed up for their relationship (which they would not have agreed to if they had known and wish they had known sooner). So they exit their arrangement.
That is what a relationship is. It is a social agreement, a verbal contract. Something that you commit to and sign up for, with some sort of mutual understanding between the two of you that you are going to maintain this arrangement and things are going to be a certain way between you two. However as the relationship ages and undergoes different situations and circumstances, different things come into play. The relationship may have started out with a certain basic agreement, but that basic agreement will not have taken into consideration everything that could possibly come into play over the course of the time you are going to be together. These things cause complications, because the partners never discussed them and what the agreement is supposed to be about them, and they may feel different ways about them.