The 20 Sexy Erotic Personality Types Revealed! Uncover Yours Here Now!
For those who know anything about psychology you know that there are what are called “Personality Archetypes” which were first set forth by Carl Jung one of the pioneers of modern psychology, but now there are a lot of personality profiles that can tell you what your personality type is as well. When it comes to romantic relationships and how we relate to the opposite sex there are a specific set of personality archetypes for that and how we do so. These are especially exciting and illustrate the various personality traits and behavioral patterns people use for seduction and romance.
As a person who specializes in personality typology, as well as seduction, relationships and sexuality, this has been a certain focal point in my work. I have studied various systems of personality archetypes both seductive and non-seductive, and have studied various styles of seduction and romance, and compiled a very complete list of seductive personality archetypes, which pulls from a couple various substantial systems with my own special commentary on what they are and how they work.
One can read through these archetypes and make a list of the ones they seem to embody naturally, and the ones they aspire to embodying, and then try to step into them all more fully. These are not mutually exclusive, most of them can work together very naturally, with some you may have to find a balance of different traits, but they all can be harmonized. And what you can do is figure out what proportions you want to embody each of them in and form a unique conglomerate of these archetypes and their various traits, collapsing them all into your own character to form a very unique and specific personality as a seducer which you can give your own name to. For instance mine is what I call a “Romantic Dominant”.
These will be written from the standpoints of both genders, respectively. I will be going through the entire list first for men, and then for women. So if you are a woman you may scroll down halfway to get to the women’s section.
The Sexual Character Archetypes of Men
The Ideal Lover
This is the representation of the prince charming archetype. This is every woman’s dream guy. It is a great archetype to embody such a romantic hero if you can do it right. This archetype is the thing of fairy tales or classic romance movies. He is every girls dream guy. The problem you will run into is trying to find the right women who are actually ready for this kind of fairy tale romance figure, as many become insecure around him when he shows up or think that he is too good to be true. However with those who can actually receive such great romance and love into their life, you can create a fantasy type romance that will seduce, enchant, and make them fall in love with you. So if you think that you can actually fit into this archetype, it can be a wonderful thing to aspire to. But it is big shoes to fill, and you will find that it is actually often too much for many women who will either get insecure and run away, or will fall psychotically in love and turn into crazy clingy stalkers. So consider yourself warned.
The Dandy
The dandy is a very elegant man. Very eloquently spoken, very well dressed, very classy and sophisticated even if he is not high society. He is also very in touch with his feminine side and his play on the sexual polarity and the sexual energy he oozes, as well as his sheer beauty is very sexually liberating to women. His play on sexuality and gender roles confuses women’s socially conditioned mind and intrigues them and opens them to new possibilities of how they can experience sexuality as a spectrum, which is a powerful experience to give a woman. He is so respectable, elegant, classy and sophisticated that as long as he is not seeming pretentious or gay he is loved and sought after by women. A great archetype to embody if you feel you are strong enough to be able to so do as a man who is in touch with his feminine side (just make sure you are not seeming pretentious or gay).
The Natural
This is a man who has boyish charm because he has always been good with women ever since his school days. He does not really feel the need to put on any sort of song or dance for women, he feels confident enough to be himself and say or do anything to a woman simply relying upon his strong frame to create the attraction that he wants (and oftentimes his attractive image). A very risky archetype to try to embody if you are not naturally a natural, and one that does not always work even for naturals (you certainly can at times say things that will put women off), but one that does work for many and that you should take a lesson from the frame control of in any case.
The Coquette
The coquette is a grand tease. Someone who is constantly baiting women and reeling them in just to release them back and repeat the process. They are an expert in the game of push pull and fractionate hot and cold to drive their targets wild. The Coquette changes the buyer seller dynamic dramatically and makes women pursue him. They are master seducers by building huge amounts of sexual tension until their target can’t stand it anymore and they just explode into sex. However the coquette truly enjoys the game for its own sake, and is not attached to the outcome of sex, and thus they get it. And when they do, they have built up so much value, and sexual tension, that their sexual experiences are quite powerful. An archetype we should all take a lesson from, but one that is difficult to fully embody, however if you think you can or want to try, you certainly should.
The Charmer/Charismatic
A socialite archetype. More social than sexual. Charmers/Charismatic’s are very good at social networking and making others like them and can accumulate great social currency and be very persuasive and influential. They can even manipulate others if they want. However their weakness is that they are often too caught up in social mode to go sexual, which is a trap you should not fall into even if you are acquiring great social status, which you will as a charmer. So this is a very useful archetype but make sure you are using your charm and social status for seductive purposes, which can be powerful for the charmer when they do it. They just have to be able to remove themselves and their target from the social scene so as not to affect either of their reputations.
The Star
A celebrity type, or even an aspiring celebrity type. Be it a politician or a musician, a CEO or entrepreneur, an author or an actor, the star enchants us with their lofty reality. Even if it is a starving artist who only aspires to stardom and has big dreams, we get caught up in their reality, which is better than our own mundane one. They have a way of captivating attention and enthralling others. They are great entertainers and very inspiring. They can take people away from their boring lives and all their concerns, and even prey on others weakness and lure them into investing in their pursuits and dreams…or if they have already become self actualized and made it big, they can easily become a playboy and create a harem of various lovers. A great archetype to aspire to if you do in fact have great dreams and pursuits.
The Playboy/Partier
The fun playful type. This archetype causes women to release their inhibitions and just have fun. It makes women feel free, and creates peak experiences. This is one of the archetypes that gets laid the most because when women are with him they feel like he wouldn’t judge them no matter what they did, and feel completely open and free to do anything they want, and like they should because he wants him to. The experience this man creates for women is one where they are just having so much fun and such a climactic experience that sex is the next natural step at some point in the night. This can be done if you are a college student or just a bar going sports fan, but can be very next level if you have money and like to travel and take vacations, as these types of things can turn into sex romps and adventures. If you are a fun exciting socialite type and want to have as much promiscuous sex as possible this is definitely an archetype for you to step into.
The Helper/Giver
This is a man of integrity who really enjoys giving value to women. And through giving value and helping them he wins over their hearts and a special place in their lives, and makes them want to be a part of his. However the great danger with this archetype is seeming supplicating or lower value and like you feel the need to overcompensate for your low value by giving/helping. Many helpers/givers also are actually treating women like prostitutes whose affections can be bought with things that they give/do. It is important not to seem try hard or overcompensating, and not to supplicate to women as if you are lower value. The essence of this archetype, when done correctly, is that you are someone who can enrich the lives of others. But do so modestly and in moderation. Even when giving too much value and having it be received positively it can make women feel inadequate and become insecure towards you. So you do not want to display too much value over her. Just be someone who can contribute positively to their life and you will win women’s hearts.
The Broken Angel
Also known as the dark angel. This is someone who is mysterious and goes against social norms and thus has a certain allure to them because women don’t often want someone who is like everyone else. The best example is the dark and brooding artist or philosopher. This person has strengths and is charming to women but also has weaknesses and vulnerability that pulls women in. He doesn’t hide his negative aspects like most men try to, but instead uses them to illicit the womans helpful/caregiver side and gets her invested in helping him out, and thus she invests emotionally as well. This is something that will often not work unless calibrated exactly right, because sometimes these types can just seem weak and needy, immature, weird, or like negative creeps. However when you don’t play on this archetype too strong, and focus on being charming, different, mysterious, but also has a dark brooding side and certain vulnerabilities that just makes a woman want to try to make a positive contribution to and connect with in her feminine way, it will work for you well.
The Romantic
The romantic is a very passionate, affectionate, emotional, and sensual archetype. It is very seductive and sexual, and very much like the seducer archetype however they are more emotional in their connection with women and more courtship oriented, and less purely sensual/sexual. The romantic is a lover archetype. However they are not “the ideal lover” archetype because they do not have to be a prince charming or ultimate romantic hero. They are just a romantic person and could be so with any other personality type. They simply can cultivate an air of romance in everything they do with a woman and are able to sweep her away into a romantic experience be it on a date or not. They could just be hanging out casually anywhere and he will be able to turn it into a scene of romance like something out of a movie. Whether he is very courtship oriented or not the romantic makes women feel the feelings that they really want to feel when being courted by a man they consider boyfriend material, whom they may very well fall in love with. However the romantic is a lover and is oftentimes polyamorous. But like the gentleman he is ethical in his love life and never leads women on to believe they are becoming his monogamous girlfriends when that is the case. He is strong enough in his frame to be able to tell girls that he is dating around right now, or is a polyamorous person. However he does connect with each individual girl very deeply emotionally in very special ways and makes them feel that they have a very meaningful dynamic, which they do.
He is very good at developing relationships and managing them, but also able to have casual sexual relations and still create a romantic scenario for them without complicating them or making it weird and awkward when he does by involving too many emotions or the wrong ones. He is the master of the art of love in all contexts and knows how to create romance in any number of ways to fit any number of situations and apply itself to the personality types of any number of girls. And they are usually able to seduce large number of girls because they are oftentimes very socialite types who are able to romanticize their social interactions quite well. However they can also be introverts who focus on smaller numbers of girls. And when they do commit themselves to long term relationships they are able to keep the romance and passion alive over time so that their sex life never has to die down and become boring or monotonous. They are the types who you will see still happily and passionately married after 40 or 50 years. And when they are not monogamous, they are the type who will be polyamorous in a very ultimate way and have a large number of lovers, who all know about one another and are fine with being part of a harem or group marriage simply because the romantic connection they share with this man is so amazing that they feel like nothing could compromise it, and they do not want to lose it by forcing an ultimatum on him. So this is one of the most powerful archetypes to have and one that is great to embody, especially since it is so general that it can be applied to any number of the others. Just be sure that you do not use it to lead women on or allow them to get emotionally attached to you if you are just looking for casual sex. Do not create the wrong types of romance in situations it is miscalibrated for, that way the girls will understand what is going on and be able to appreciate it for what it is.
The Dominant
This is a type of man who is extremely aggressive and physically dominant with women. He has no trouble with asking for consent and he is not a sexual predator or rapist in the least. Rather the contrary, he is someone who sweeps women off of their feet and makes them want to enthusiastically consent to him to do whatever he wants even if it is incredibly aggressive or hardcore. He elicits women’s hidden desires to have a man who is extremely assertive and controlling, and physically dominant, even abusive. He knows what most men don’t, that women enjoy things like being choked and having a man get rough with them…and some even have rape fantasies and other deviant fetishes. He knows exactly how to bring up these fetishes and fantasies and be the one man who can fulfill them. And he uses the power of his mind to control the minds of women and get them to submit to him sexually and otherwise. He will often cultivate a huge harem of women who were once sexually frustrated and are now his personal sex slaves, and love being controlled and dominated by him. Something to aspire to if you are a very hardcore badass type of guy and think you could really step into this role, though it is certainly not for those who aren’t sure about it. More on this in a later chapter.
The Rake/Ruthlessly Sexual
This is a man who is called in modern terms the “player”. He is very promiscuous and knows that there is nothing wrong with living in sexual abundance, and he does. He has a lot of sex and is very skilled at making it happen, especially since he is not very picky about who he does so with. This is a man who is completely sexually liberated and unashamed of his sexuality and has no problem with showing it. He is totally sexually open and will express his sexual intentions comfortably and confidently anywhere and any way he wishes. He is very good at turning social situations sexual and leading with his comfortability. However his one weakness is that he is often lacking in social acuity and is unattuned to social cues, and thus will sometimes be lacking comfort and social calibration when he is going sexual with a woman and thus will get resistance from her at some point and be unable to go “all the way”. Women may often feel “buyers remorse” at some point in the interaction as they may feel as though they are being used or that he is superficial, (which he can be), so watch out for that as this archetype. But if you can embody this archetype and still focus on being able to be socially comfortable and calibrated, and make women feel like they are not being used as just sex objects, you can achieve sexual abundance as this archetype. Just make sure that you use condoms, and try to maintain a high standard.
The Spiritualist
Like the star the spiritualist live in a fantasy world which he brings into the women’s reality, engulfing her with it, and enchanting her. But beyond what the star offers, he gives greater meaning to her existence. He gives her greater depth in her own mind and character and opens her to her own spirit and parts of herself she has never experienced before. He creates a higher level of being for her to live at, and a wondrous new world where everything is more fantastic and a bit surreal. This is highly seductive and can make women fall in love with you. He engages the women’s imagination, emotions, and senses in a magickal way that makes her feel ethereal…and can very much be like casting a spell on her. He can also make women feel like they have a very special spiritual connection that a woman has never experienced before with a man and is very dream like. He can make her feel like they are soul mates, and like when they make love it is a spiritual act such as in Tantra or sex magick, and she will feel a synergy between them and become extremely orgasmic. This archetype is exotic and exciting for women but can oftentimes be seen as just a novelty item and not taken seriously if you do not calibrate to the women right and use your social intelligence to give her some amount of normalcy and groundedness. It can also be overwhelming for some women who may find it too strange and ungrounding and opt out at some point, but will work on many women very well, and make them have extremely strong feelings for you. You can even become like a god to women and build a harem of spiritual love slaves or goddesses to serve your every sexual need, or even build a cult following with. This is a dangerous archetype, but if you are a person who is very spiritual and feels he has the morality to be able to execute it properly, it is an extremely powerful one that I highly recommend using. More on how to become like a god to women in a later chapter.
The Innocent
This archetype represents a sweet boyish charm and purity that is very lovable. He is so naïve it is endearing and takes women back to their school girl days, which every girl actually wishes they could remain at. While many women want a rake, many also want a man who has not been corrupted yet and is still pure and innocent and sweet. For them this archetype is very lovable, though it can also be frustrating at times due to his immaturity. Try not to seem painfully novice or immature so that you lose respect and value. And do not be so childish that you turn the women you date into your mothers. The point here is to have a sweet innocent boyish charm that women find so endearing and gives them the ability to reconnect with their inner child and young girlish nature that they have always wanted to be able to stay in touch with. This must be calibrated carefully, but when it is, you can use this archetype to have great romance with women of all ages, no matter what age you are at.
The Nice Guy
This is the guy that is boyfriend material that women seek after. And while many people say that “nice guys finish last” and many nice guys complain that women only date/fuck assholes, and this is true in many cases, if the nice guy is calibrated properly he is someone who can get women, and lots of them, and have them supplicate to him. The point here is that you being a nice guy must come from the fact that you have great social value and high social status. Your being nice should not be a supplicating overcompensation for your lack of value. It should also not be something that you do in friendly mode as a token that you think is going to get you sex in return. Most nice guys that complain about the friend zone are doing so because they stayed in friendly mode and were nice to the girl and don’t have the social intelligence to understand that this is not flirtation, and are confused as to why she didn’t just reward them with affections and romance. Women are not going to have sex with you for just being friendly and nice. However, if done in a certain way, it can get you into sexual relationships. But it must be done out of your having high social value and status and thus feeling the confidence and ability to be able to be nice to people fearlessly, and expecting them to react positively. Think about entrepreneurs and business people who do a lot of networking. They are all very nice and friendly to everyone they meet, and yet they exude such value, status, confidence and POWER that people do not take their niceness for granted, but take it as a gift and are nice back. And these types of people are sought after mates for women. The social networking entrepreneurial nice guys I know get tons of women this way. And they don’t just get women flirting with them, giving them their phone numbers, or having one night stands with them…Women want to make these guys into boyfriends and husbands because they are just so valuable that women want to lock them down and own them. The nice guy when done right is a woman’s prize, it is what all women are looking for most ultimately to marry. You too can be sought after by women. You just can’t get trapped in the friendly/social mode. You have to be nice in a flirtatious sweet and romantic way. Don’t just talk to the girl, talk sweet to her, use sexual body language, deep eye contact, look at her a certain way, be romantic, and don’t be afraid to use your social confidence and suave to go sexual and dominant too. If you can do this women will be lining up to be your boyfriend.
The Adventurer
This is a guy who is exotic, exciting and lives a fantasy life of doing whatever he wants, being extremely active, trying new things, and going on adventures all the time be they within his immediate social environment where his home base is, or traveling the world to exotic cultures. Women find this extremely alluring, and it is something that most women want, or at least claim to. You will get some women who do not want to step out of their comfort zone unless you are extremely seductive about it, or you are offering great luxuries. However if you have the money to spend freely on lavish items, activities and trips, most any woman will try new exciting things with you and go on spontaneous adventures with you at a moment’s notice. Women will make time for a seductive man who is offering to take them on a trip, and it is easy to have an epic sex life that way because sex will just naturally involve itself in those kinds of adventures. However a master seducer in this archetype doesn’t need to spend a lot of money on women taking them on lavish trips and such, he can just create a spur the moment adventure with a woman he has just met by taking her on a scenic walk and then back to his apartment where he will cook new foods for her and some crazy craft cocktails and then have epic sex with her there where he gets her to try some new kinky fetishes and explore some sexual experimentation and fantasies. Adventure is a state of mind you have to exist in, and when you do you can create a scene of adventure anywhere and any way you want to and whisk women away into it, and make sex with them the climax. Just make sure that you are not focusing too much on the activities as your seduction, as this could seem try hard or like overcompensation. You must be able to actually connect with the girl as well. So make sure that you getting to know each other and exploring that interpersonal connection that is developing is the main part of the adventure, and not necessarily what you are doing. What you are doing together activity wise should just be the background and part of your situation and logistics. The real adventure is the romance and relationship that you are developing together. If you can embody this archetype it is an extremely powerful one that will get you the love life of your dreams.
The Seducer
This is the charmer/charismatic but not in the social context and instead the romantic/sexual. The seducer is very charming and charismatic, but he is much more geared towards romance and sexuality. His vibe is distinctly sexual and he oozes sexual energy. When talking to a woman he relates man to woman in a very polarized fashion. He is highly affectionate and sensual. He knows exactly how to turn a woman on and make her feel good sexually, and can connect with her emotionally if he needs to as well to make her feel good romantically, but won’t always do this if he doesn’t need to. He knows how to get in touch with a woman on a deep sexual level and connect with her sexually like no guy can. He knows how to elicit women’s fantasies and fetishes and bring out all of their hidden desires and create scenarios they have always dreamed about but never been able to actually act out with any man. He is the type of guy who can get even the most conservative women to break taboos and do things they had never dared. And he can turn women onto super kinky things that they would have never done if he hadn’t convinced them. He can even be manipulative and when stirring up women’s emotions use that to get them to do things that they would otherwise know they shouldn’t, but are too caught up in their feelings for him. However ethically, he is the type of guy who just wants to make women feel good and give them the gift of pleasure which they may have thought was forbidden and been deprived of. He is the sexually frustrated womans savior. And he can connect with women emotionally and be an amazing lover if that is what he wants. This is the don Juan archetype, and his love life is an epic romance like that we see in the movies, but it can exist in real life. In fact this is a great archetype to embody which is the most general and able to be combined with any and every other one most easily. So if it sounds good to you go ahead and step into it!
The Gentleman
This is an old fashioned mans man type, like those found up until the 1950’s. A very masculine man. A man of integrity and values. A man of respect and honor. A very classy and sophisticated man. One who knows how to dress and likes wearing traditional mans attire such as collared shirts and suits. A man who still abides by the old fashioned social protocols of treating women with respect and chivalry. He opens doors for women, compliments them, and will offer to pick up the tab when they are out. He is gallant, but not supplicating. For old fashioned men did respect women, but with a balance of slight playful misogyny. They weren’t afraid to go sexual with a girl be it by going for the kiss or smacking her on the ass as she walks through the door he is holding open for her. He takes her coat when she enters his apartment, and has no problem with taking off other clothes of hers as well, as long as she is consensual, which, why wouldn’t she be with a man who is so classy, respectful, and gallant? He relates to her as man to woman in a sexually polarizing way, and creates a romantic experience for her. He gives her the comfortable and pleasurable experience of more formalized dating, without it being socially awkward or weird, because he is very charming. He is romantic but not in a way that overcompensates for his feelings that sex is wrong, rather the contrary. He genuinely enjoys the experience total experience of courtship and enjoying a woman’s company.
Sex to him is just the climax of an evening well spent with a female companion. And at the end of the evening he gives her the option of sleeping over or walking her to her car. And if she does sleep over, he makes her breakfast in the morning, because they will be hungry after a long night of love making. And he will probably give it to her again before she leaves, if she can actually bring herself to. For when executed correctly the gentleman archetype is one that women want more than anything, for they have been socially programmed their whole life to. It is one that when they find they will often attach themselves to and cling to and attempt to turn into their boyfriend or husband. Like the nice guy he is certainly boyfriend/husband material, however unlike the nice guy usually is, he is oftentimes one who is really enjoying dating around with more than just one woman. But he is very honest about his intentions and never leads women on, and they respect how honest and genuine he is and know they can trust him. Thus he gets his way with them in many cases. This can be a great role to aspire to, however just make sure that if you are attempting to embody it you are not doing so in the wrong ways. For many men call themselves gentlemen as a way of making themselves feel better about their supplication to women. This is not what a true gentleman does. A true gentleman is just a very strong male gender role and a grand courtier in the old fashioned formalized sense. But he most certainly knows how to control a situation in his favor and create a scene of romance. He is not just someone who pays for dates with women and opens doors for them in hopes of them rewarding him with a kiss at the end of it.
The Corrupter
The corrupter is a very sexually liberated adventurous man who really enjoys exploring their sexuality with women. And due to their sexual freedom and openness they are able to really elicit a girl’s kinky side, even if it was something that she had always kept hidden and was barely accepting of in herself. The corrupter’s unconditional acceptance of human sexuality in any of its expressions and experiences is inspiring to women who are socially conditioned to be sexually frustrated, and really just want a man to liberate them from that state and give them the sexual fulfillment that men get. The corrupter is an initiator, someone who does this for women, and is very persuasive about it so that even a conservative type of girl or a novice, or someone who has been badly repressed will open up to him sexually and try new things. His ability to take full responsibility for making sex happen makes women comfortable with relinquishing responsibility to him and allowing him to take the lead and introduce them to new experiences, even if their consent is not verbalized they will often go along and enjoy themselves. He connects with the side of a woman that is unfulfilled and curious about her sexuality. He elicits a person’s unexplored sexual fantasies and hidden fetishes that they have often been ashamed of and feel are so taboo that they would never have been comfortable enough sharing them with any other kind of man but this. However all they secretly wanted was to be able to feel unashamed of them and be able to experience them freely without the moral conundrum. And this is what the corrupter gives them the gift of. He makes them a reality shamelessly and in a way that brings them so much pleasure that they are no longer concerned with the idea that they are “taboo”. He liberates women sexually and can turn a complete novice or conservative such as a catholic school girl into a sexual deviant freak. He will even be able to get women to try new sexual experiments that they would have never thought that they liked, and get them to like it. The corrupter can take a young religious virgin who had been saving herself for marriage and turn her into his sex slave. Once he brings out the part of their sexual persona they had always repressed they can even get addicted to the fetishes he introduces them to. He can get innocent girls involved in gang bangs or pornography. This is a dangerously powerful archetype to embody because if you are unethical or have some sort of evil intentions you can really hurt others and that can bring some very bad karma upon you, which will be damaging to your own psyche and lifestyle. You don’t want to be having girls complain to their parents or the police that you had done anything to them without their consent. So when being a sexual corrupter, make sure you are doing so ethically, and with the girls best interest and pleasure in mind. If you can do that this is a great archetype to embody and will give you an incredibly wild and epic sex life.
The Sensualist
This is the one archetype that does not really stand alone usually, but should be combined with other archetypes because the sensualist is more about what he does and not who he is, and could seem superficial or lacking in real character if used alone. This is someone who is extremely focused on physical pleasure and creating sensations of various kinds. He is a charlatan and can turn physical existence into a very wonderful thing by introducing stimuli of all different kinds and producing an intoxicating experience. This is a very powerful thing to be able to do in dating. Indulging a woman’s senses in as many ways as possible, as much as possible, and creating a sensual experience and dynamic with a woman will lead very directly to sex. Just make sure that you do not seem too superficial or become a slave to your own sensory pleasure like a drug addict. Simply be a person who enjoys indulgence and sensory stimuli, and is very affectionate and sensual. Use nice smelling cologne, nice clothes that happen to feel very soft and pleasant to the touch, take her out on very fun, exciting and indulgent dates, feed her exotic food and drink, use aphrodisiacs, back at your apartment use incense, play sexy music, cultivate a very romantic atmosphere at your place with a lot of pleasant and sensually oriented imagery, have a very comfortable couch for her to sit on and soft luxurious bed sheets, use sensual touching and erotic massage, perform cunnilingus and advanced sexual techniques on her and give her more orgasms than anyone ever has and new sensations that no one has ever created for her sexually with your touch (and penis). When you create a whole new level of multi-dimensional pleasure for the woman to experience you will have amazing sex with a lot of women because as you can see one pleasure will lead to the next and as you introduce sensual touching and build the erotic tension and start sexually escalating and giving her more pleasure at some point sex is just the next thing that will occur naturally. Just make sure that you do not seem superficial or too caught up in physicality and like you actually have a personality she can connect with and some depth of character, and this is a very useful archetype.
So now that you know what personality archetypes you fit into, and which ones you want to, you can begin to embody them more completely to become a better lover and effectuate the love life of your dreams! But this is only the first step! Next is to engineer your own personality type and sexual identity from the ones you fit into naturally, as well as the ones you want to fit into more. Which you can do with actual fun psychological exercises in my new Sexual Identity Work Book for men which this article is actually an excerpt from!
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The Sexual Character Archetypes of Women
The Natural Sexual Woman
This is a woman who is a natural socialite, charming, charismatic, and has always done well with men because like her social skills, she has a natural flirtatious and seductive personality. She does not really feel the need to put on any sort of song or dance for men, she feels confident enough to be herself and say or do anything to a man that she wants. She speaks her mind confidently and thus gets respected for that. And thus she feels completely free to be openly sexual without fear of social reprisal or “slut shaming”, because she knows that sex is natural and doesn’t care if anyone thinks otherwise. A solid self concept is the name of the game with this archetype because it leads with sheer confidence alone. However it is a very risky archetype to try to embody if you are not naturally a natural, and one that does not always work because as a natural sometimes your great track record and sheer audacity will lead you to slip up and say the wrong thing, since you are not used to second guessing yourself. So just make sure to be careful and control your mouth at times when you are speaking about something controversial, like sex. In a submissive this is what is known as an “Alpha Sub” – someone who is a naturally confident social leader type, but enjoys being submissive towards men she finds attractive, and thus between these two qualities she is able to have her way with them.
The Ideal Lover
This is the representation of the prince charming archetype in female form – so basically “Princess Charming” haha. This is everyone’s dream partner. It is a great archetype to embody such a romantic hero if you can do it right. This archetype is the thing of fairy tales or classic romance movies. The problem you will run into is trying to find the right people who are actually ready for this kind of fairy tale romance figure, as many become insecure around him when he shows up or think that she is too good to be true. However with those who can actually receive such great romance and love into their life, you can create a fantasy type romance that will seduce, enchant, and make them fall in love with you. So if you think that you can actually fit into this archetype, it can be a wonderful thing to aspire to. But it is big shoes to fill, and you will find that it is actually often too much for many men who will either get insecure and run away, or will fall psychotically in love and turn into crazy clingy stalkers. So consider yourself warned. However if it is romance and love you are looking for, this can be a very powerful archetype to be in, so long as you can handle being rejected by people who it is too much for. But there is no better way to create epic romances and love relationships. Even as a sub. In fact in a sub this archetype is called a “Romantic Submissive”, and is a very wonderful type of sub to have as a dom, and creates a very ideal loving relationship dynamic, as it can bring out the loving caring nurturing side of most any Dom.
The Quaintrelle/Female Dandy
The dandy is a very elegant man or woman. Very eloquently spoken, very well dressed, very classy and sophisticated even if she is not high society. She is elegant and graceful and gorgeous because she is so well kept and styled (even if she doesn’t have natural beauty she is the envy of all due to this). The sexual energies he oozes, as well as her sheer beauty is very sexually intoxicating to men. She is so respectable, elegant, classy and sophisticated that as long as she is not seeming pretentious or condescending she is loved and sought after by men. A great archetype to embody if you feel you are strong enough to be able to so, just make sure you do not come off as arrogant. In a submissive this is the little girl type or princess type.
The Coquette
The coquette is a grand tease. Someone who is constantly baiting men and reeling them in just to release them back and repeat the process. They are an expert in the game of push pull and mixing hot and cold to drive their targets wild. The Coquette changes the buyer seller dynamic dramatically and makes the men she wants pursue her. They are master seducers by building huge amounts of sexual tension until their target can’t stand it anymore and they just explode into sex. However the coquette truly enjoys the game for its own sake, and is not attached to the outcome of sex, and thus they get it. And when they do, they have built up so much value, and sexual tension, that their sexual experiences are quite powerful. An archetype we should all take a lesson from, but one that is difficult to fully embody, however if you think you can or want to try, you certainly should. In a submissive this is the type of personality who will get what she wants from a Dom by teasing him with her sensuality until he absolutely must take her.
The Charmer/Charismatic
A socialite archetype like the natural. More social than sexual. Charmers/Charismatics are very good at social networking and making others like them and can accumulate great social currency and be very persuasive and influential. They can even manipulate others if they want. However their weakness is that they are often too caught up in social mode to go sexual, which is a trap you should not fall into even if you are acquiring great social status, which you will as a charmer. So this is a very useful archetype but make sure you are using your charm and social status for seductive purposes, which can be powerful for the charmer when they do it. They just have to be able to remove themselves and their target from the social scene so as not to affect either of their reputations.
The Playgirl/Partyer
The fun playful type. This archetype causes everyone around them to release their inhibitions and just have fun with them. It makes people feel free, and creates peak experiences for others which is a drug like experience. This is one of the archetypes that gets laid the most because when others are with them they feel like he wouldn’t judge them no matter what they did, and that they are all just there to have fun together, and so they feel completely open and free to do anything they want, and more than that, they SHOULD. This is the type of person who is constantly creating epic days and nights of fun, and sex between the people having fun just becomes a natural integral part of that. Even wild kinky sex, or orgies. Anything can happen with the partyer/playgirl because everything is off the record. This can be done quite easily if you are a college student or just a bar going sports fan, but can be very next level if you have money and like to travel and take vacations, as these types of things can turn into sex romps and adventures. If you are a fun exciting socialite type and want to have as much promiscuous sex as possible this is definitely an archetype for you to step into. In a submissive this is a “kinkster” and/or “slut” type.
The Star
A celebrity type, or even an aspiring celebrity type. Be it a Model, politician or a musician, a CEO or entrepreneur, an author or an actor, the star enchants us with their lofty reality. Even if it is a starving artist who only aspires to stardom and has big dreams, we get caught up in their reality, which is better than most peoples mundane ones. They have a way of captivating attention and enthralling others. They are great entertainers and very inspiring. They can take people away from their boring lives and all their concerns, and even prey on others weakness and lure them into investing in their pursuits and dreams…or if they have already become self actualized and made it big, they can easily become a playboy or playgirl and create a harem of various lovers. A great archetype to aspire to if you do in fact have great dreams and pursuits. In a submissive this is an “Alpha Sub”, or some other strong type of submissive who will love to dress up in grandiose costumes and do modeling, and can make herself look like the sexiest sub that the Dom she wants has ever been with, and that she is a Dom’s prize.
The Helper/Giver
This is a woman of integrity who really enjoys giving value to others and helping them. And through giving value and helping them she wins over their hearts and a special place in their lives, and makes them want to be a part of hers. Through their caring maternal instincts and nurturing nature, people cannot help but feel affection and love for this archetype and be deeply emotionally seduced by them. However the great danger with this archetype is seeming supplicating or lower value and like you feel the need to overcompensate for your low value by giving/helping. It is important not to seem try hard or overcompensating, and not to supplicate to others as if you are lower value. The essence of this archetype, when done correctly, is that you are someone who can enrich the lives of others. But do so modestly and in moderation. Even when giving too much value and having it be received positively it can make your potential partners feel inadequate and become insecure towards you. So you do not want to display too much value over them. Just be someone who can contribute positively to their life and you will win their hearts. In a submissive this is the servant type.
The Broken Angel
Also known as the dark angel. This is someone who is mysterious and goes against social norms and thus has a certain allure to them because women don’t often want someone who is like everyone else. The best example is the dark and brooding artist or philosopher. This person has strengths and is charming but also has weaknesses and vulnerability which they are not afraid to share, and many people respect that. This type really pulls others in with their alluring mysterious nature, as well as the taste of the alternative side that so intrigues others. She doesn’t hide her negative aspects like most men try to, but instead uses them to illicit her target’s helpful/caregiver side and gets him invested in helping her out, and thus he gets invested emotionally as well. She also elicits men’s paternal instincts and makes him feel like he is her Daddy, which gives this dynamic an innocent loving nurturing feel, as well as a kinky taboo feel. This is something that will often not work unless calibrated exactly right, because sometimes these types can just seem weak and needy, immature, weird, or like negative creeps. However when you don’t play on this archetype too strong, and focus on being charming, different, mysterious, but also has a dark brooding side and certain vulnerabilities that just makes a man want to try to make a positive contribution to and connect with in a loving way, it will work for you well. In a submissive this is the slave type.
The Adventurer
This is a girl who is exotic, exciting and lives a fantasy life of doing whatever she wants, being extremely active, trying new things, and going on adventures all the time be they within her immediate social environment where her home base is, or traveling the world to exotic cultures. People find this extremely alluring, and it is something that most people want, or at least claim to. You will get some men who do not want to step out of their comfort zone unless you are extremely seductive about it, or you are offering great indulgences as the carrot on the end of the stick you use to lead them on your grand escapades. However if you have the money to spend freely on lavish items, activities and trips, most any man will try new exciting things with you and go on spontaneous adventures with you at a moment’s notice. Men will make time for a seductive woman who is offering to take them on a trip, and it is easy to have an epic sex life that way because sex will just naturally involve itself in those kinds of adventures. However a master seductress in this archetype doesn’t need to spend a lot of money on lavish vacations and such, she can just create a spur the moment adventure with a guy she has just met by taking him on a scenic walk and then back to her apartment where she will cook new foods for him and some crazy craft cocktails. And then the adventure comes to a climax when she has epic sex with him and gets him to try some new kinky fetishes and explore some sexual experimentation and fantasies.
So it doesn’t matter what you do to be adventurous. Adventure is a state of mind you have to exist in, and when you do you can create a scene of adventure anywhere and any way you want to and whisk women away into it, and make sex with them the climax. Just make sure that you are not focusing too much on the activities as your seduction, as this could seem try hard or like overcompensation. You must be able to actually connect with the guy as well and form a relationship. So make sure that you getting to know each other and exploring that interpersonal connection that is developing is the main part of the adventure, and not necessarily what you are doing. What you are doing together activity wise should just be the background and part of your situation. The real adventure is the romance and relationship that you are developing together. If you can embody this archetype it is an extremely powerful one that will get you the love life of your dreams. In a submissive this is a kinkster who will experiment with anything and makes people want to play with her through the thrill of the new and exciting experiences she offers.
The Spiritualist/Goddess
Like the star the spiritualist live in a fantasy world which she brings into the man’s reality, engulfing him with it, and enchanting him. But beyond what the star offers, she gives greater meaning to his existence. She gives him greater depth in his own mind and character and opens him to his own spirit and parts of himself he has never experienced before. She creates a higher level of being for him to live at, and a wondrous new world where everything is more fantastic and a bit surreal. This is highly seductive and can make men fall in love with you quickly and deeply. She engages men’s imagination, emotions, and senses in a magical way that makes him feel intoxicated…and can very much be like casting a spell on him. She can also make men feel like they have a very special spiritual connection that a man has never experienced before with a woman and is very dream like. She can make him feel like they are soul mates, and like when they make love it is a spiritual act such as in tantra or sex magick, and he will feel a synergy between them and become extremely orgasmic. This archetype is exotic and exciting for men but can oftentimes be seen as just a novelty item and not taken seriously if you do not calibrate to the man right and use your social intelligence to give them some amount of normalcy and groundedness. It can also be overwhelming for some men who may find it too strange and ungrounding and opt out at some point. Or they may find you beautiful and interesting, but just think that you are some weird hippy or kook and write you off immediately. But when done with social intelligence it will work on many men very well, and make them have extremely strong feelings for you. You can even become like a Goddess to men and build a harem of spiritual love slaves to serve your every sexual need, or even build a cult following with just like Cleopatra did (who was of this archetype). This is a dangerous archetype because it is so powerful, but if you are a person who is very spiritual and feels she has the morality to be able to execute it properly, it is an extremely powerful one that I highly recommend using.
The Innocent
This archetype represents a sweet girlish charm and purity that is very lovable. She is so naïve it is endearing and takes men back to their school girl days, which every person secretly actually wishes they could remain at. While many people secretly want someone who is a shamelessly sexual type, many also secretly want a woman who has not been corrupted yet and is still pure and innocent and sweet. For them this archetype is very lovable and seems like the type of girl they can have a pure romance with, and even start a family and build a life with. Many others however will delight in the very taboo notion of “age play” that goes along with this, or in acting like the innocents corrupter. Though for those who do want a real relationship, this type can also be frustrating at times due to their immaturity. If this is you, just try not to seem painfully novice or immature so that you lose respect and value. And do not be so childish that you turn the men you date into your fathers. The point here is to have a sweet innocent girlish charm that men find so endearing and gives them the ability to reconnect with their inner child and playful boyish nature that they have always wanted to be able to stay in touch with. This must be calibrated carefully, but when it is, you can use this archetype to have great romance with men of all ages, no matter what age you are at. In a submissive this is a little girl or princess type.
The Nice Girl
This is the guy that is girlfriend material that men seek after. Many people say that “nice guys finish last” and many nice guys complain that women only date/fuck assholes, and this is true in many cases, and a lot of nice girls complain about being used by assholes and players, which is true in many cases. However if the nice girl is calibrated properly she is someone who can get men, and the very good ones. Good men who she can have a very healthy sustainable relationship with. The point here that separates those who get used from those who get healthy relationships is that you being a nice girl must come from the fact that you have great social value. Your being nice should not be a supplicating overcompensation for your lack of value. It should also not be something that you offer others in order to gain acceptance. This is where the assholes and players see nice girls as bait. But girls who have social status and are internally validated and confident women who just so happen to be nice do not get used. They get nice guys who are like them to have very nice relationships with. But it must be done out of your having high social value and status and thus feeling the confidence and ability to be able to be nice to people fearlessly, and expecting them to react positively. Think about entrepreneurs and business people who do a lot of networking. They are all very nice and friendly to everyone they meet, and yet they exude such value, status, confidence and POWER that people do not take their niceness for granted, but take it as a gift and are nice back. For if you are not nice to these people, they do not feel the need to be nice to you, in fact they could become unwanted competition in the business world. That is the true way to be a “Nice Person” that is valued by society. And these types of people are sought after mates for good men. The social networking entrepreneurial nice guys and girls I know get tons of boyfriends and girlfriends this way. And getting married too. Because these people are just so valuable.
The nice guy/girl when done right is a trophy husband/wife because it is just the type of person that everyone is looking to marry most ultimately. How many times have you heard people say after being in the dating pool for a while that they are ready to just find a Nice Guy/Girl to settle down with? So being in this archetype can make you saught after by high value men. Just don’t get trapped in the friendly/social mode. You have to be nice in a flirtatious sweet and romantic way. Don’t just talk to the boy you like and be nice and expect things to go your way. Talk sweet to him, use sexual body language, deep eye contact, give them sweet looks, be affectionate and flirty, be romantic, touch him sensually, seduce him, and don’t be afraid to use your social confidence and suave to lead the interaction towards sex either! Just because you are a nice girl doesn’t mean you shouldn’t have sex! You deserve pleasure too! And after you have seduced the men you want they will all be proposing to you! In a submissive this is a little girl or princess type.
The Lady
This is the female version of “The Gentleman” archetype. She is an old fashioned woman’s woman type, like those found up until the 1950’s. A very old fashioned traditional feminine gender role. A woman of integrity and values. A woman of respectability and grace. A very classy and sophisticated woman. One who knows how to dress and likes wearing traditional woman’s attire such as skirts and dresses. A woman who still abides by the old fashioned social protocols of treating men like gentlemen and expecting to be treated like a Lady. She will make men court her and engage in traditional courtship behaviors. She will tuck her hand under her mans arm as she walks with him, and wait for him to open the door for her when entering a building. She will ask her to order for him at restaurants to see what kinds of tastes he has and how he will treat her. Then if he picks up the tab she will offer to pay him back by cooking for him on the next date, and seducing him through his stomach just like old fashioned women knew how to. And at her house she will treat him with real good old fashioned hospitality, because she knows how to host, and how to engineer her home for seduction and romance – giving him a taste of just how lovely life with her is. She will slow dance with him after dinner to see how romantic of a lover he is and if he is sex worthy. And in her traditional feminine beauty and grace, she brings out the old fashioned masculine gentleman in the men she dates. And in her seduction of them she relates to them in a very sexually polarizing way, creating a great romantic dynamic. And she gives the romantic charm of a more formalized dating frame, without it being socially awkward or weird, but very pleasant and enjoyable. And while she is romantic it is not in a way that is attempting to overcompensate for sexual shame, rather the contrary. She genuinely enjoys the total experience of courtship and companionship and romantic connection that leads up to lovemaking. Sex to her is just the climax of an evening well spent with a male companion. And at the end of the evening she gives him the option of sleeping over if she likes him, because why not make love to a man you like who you have just had a lovely evening with? And if she does sleep with him she makes him breakfast in the morning, because they will be hungry after a long night of love making. And he will probably give it to her again before she leaves, if she hasn’t seduced him into staying and spending the day with her.
When executed correctly the Lady archetype is one that most men want to be with, and stay with. It is the type of woman that will tame even a player or bad boy type, and make them want to marry you and take you home to meet their parents, then set up a nice little idyllic old fashioned life with a house and white picket fence. And like the “nice girl” type, this is the type who gets the best most valuable and high class men, and can have the healthiest most sustainable and successful relationships with them. But beware, the lady is a type who’s romantic style of courtship is so enchanting that it can often cause men to attach themselves to and cling to you and possibly propose way too early. Like the nice girl she is certainly wifey material, however unlike the nice girl, being a lady and thus a master of courtship, she usually has a lot of good options and is dating around and waiting to find the right gentleman to settle down with. Which is how dating should be done in order to form the right relationship, but when some men find out that they have competition they may get jealous and possessive, so watch out for that. But luckily the lady is very honest about her intentions and never leads men on. She may play flirty courtship games but is never facetious or manipulative. She is respectable and trustworthy. And she also communicates well because she is articulate, and is diplomatic too. So she will inform a man when she is not ready for commitment yet and has a certain dating process she likes to follow in order to make sure a man is the right mate. And men like the fact that she is a strong enough woman to not play games and lead them on, and to say what’s what so that they know where they stand.
So for any woman who has traditional values and falls into a very traditional female gender role this can be a great role to aspire to, however just make sure that if you are attempting to embody it you are not doing so in the wrong ways. The lady is someone who has mastered courtship and thus knows how to control her dating life and make it go in her favor. She is skilled at the art of romance and can create a romantic connection with the most high society men, and can even take the renowned playboys and get them falling in love with her charm on the first date, only to make them wait for sex. However she will make beautiful love to any man she has feelings for, whenever she wants to, just so long as he has shown her that he will be a gentleman about it. And when she does make love to her gentleman, it is an incredibly lovely, sweet, and romantic experience that leave both partners enchanted. That is the glory dating as a lady. Her only downfall is that she may play into some obsolete, negative female stereotypes, and have some old fashioned sexist tendencies since this gender role is pre-feminist. So she may expect men to pay for everything and be in charge of most things which can cause her to lack the healthy measure of control that a submissive woman is still supposed to have in her dating and selection process in order to ensure that the relationship she forms is a healthy one. Also in expecting a man to pay for everything this woman can easily get set up as a financially dependent housewife of an old fashioned misogynistic man, which over time can turn into an abusive relationship that she has no freedom or power to escape. So if you are in this archetype, be sure to watch out for those pitfalls.
The Romantic
The romantic is a very passionate, affectionate, emotional, and sensual archetype. It is very seductive and sexual, and very much like the seducer archetype however they are more emotional in their connection with men and more courtship oriented, and less purely sensual/sexual. The romantic is a lover archetype. However they are not “the ideal lover” archetype because they do not have to be a prince charming or ultimate romantic hero. They are just a romantic person and could be so in combination with any other personality type (such as mine, the “Romantic Dominant” – though Dominant is not listed here because this is a workbook for submissive females, but you get the idea). The romantic woman can naturally cultivate an air of romance in everything they do with a man, no matter what it is, even the littlest of things such as going for a walk become a charming “romantic stroll”. Thus the romantics are able to sweep their men away into a romantic experience be it on a formal date or not. They could just be hanging out casually anywhere and he will be able to turn it into a scene of romance like something out of a movie. Whether she is very courtship oriented or not the romantic makes men feel the feelings that they really want to feel when dating a woman that they consider girlfriend material, whom they may very well fall in love with…and with her romantic powers they start falling in love soon, and will do so deeply. However being a lover the romantic is oftentimes polyamorous or polyandrous. But like “The Lady” archetype she is ethical in her love life and never leads men on to believe they are becoming her monogamous boyfriends if that is not the case. She is strong enough of a person and in control of her dating life to be able to communicate to the men she dates that she is currently dating around right now, or that she is a polyamorous woman who just so happens to enjoy having multiple lovers, perhaps of both genders. However she does connect with each individual very deeply emotionally in very special ways and makes them feel that they have a very meaningful dynamic, which they do.
She is very good at developing relationships and managing them, but also able to have casual sexual relations and still create a romantic scenario for them without complicating them or making it weird and awkward when she does by involving too many emotions or the wrong ones. She is the master of the art of love in all contexts and knows how to create romance in any number of ways to fit any number of situations and apply itself to the personality types of any number of guys. And The Romantic types are usually able to seduce large number of guys (and girls) because they are oftentimes very socialite types who are very socially active, and then are able to romanticize their social interactions quite well. However they can also be introverts who focus on smaller numbers of partners, and can be monogamous too. And when they do commit themselves to long term relationships they are able to establish great intimacy, and keep the romance and passion alive over time so that their sex life never has to die down and become boring or monotonous. They are the types who you will see still happily and passionately married after 40 or 50 years. And when they are not monogamous, they are the type who will be polyamorous in a very ultimate way and have a large number of lovers, who all know about one another and are fine with being part of a harem or group marriage simply because the romantic connection they share with this man is so amazing that they feel like nothing could compromise it, and they do not want to lose it by forcing an ultimatum on her. So this is one of the most powerful archetypes to have and one that is great to embody, especially since it is so general that it can be applied to any number of the others. Just be sure that you do not use it to lead others on if you are not looking for a relationship, just tell them that you are a romantic person and are enjoying connecting with them casually right now, but are not looking for commitment. In a submissive this is what is called a “Romantic Submissive”.
The Submissive
The submissive is a woman who enjoys playing a more passive (though not completely passive) role in her sex, or sexual relationships. She enjoys letting the man be the dominant one, for the most part at least, and letting him have (some measure of) control. She gets the most sexual pleasure out of surrendering to her partner and being submissive to him sexually. She loves having a man who she can trust enough to give up power to, and allow to take charge in their sex life. She enjoys being controlled and given instructions on what to do. She gets empowered by giving up power to her Dominant Man and having him use that power over her to create the sexual experiences she wants to have. And through giving up control, she is psychologically and spiritually liberated. The feeling she gets in surrendering to her partner are quite entrancing, and are called in the BDSM community “sub space”. It puts her into a deeper state of consciousness that she really enjoys. She won’t just submit to everyone however, and the amount and types of control and power that are given up will be different for every submissive. But the psychology is the same. And when a submissive woman has the right Dominant to submit to, he can put her into exactly the state of being she wants to be in.
The Seductress
This is the charmer/charismatic but not in the social context and instead the romantic/sexual. The seductress is very charming and charismatic, but she is much more geared towards romance and sexuality. Her vibe is distinctly sexual and she oozes sexual energy. When talking to a man she relates man to woman in a very polarized fashion. She is highly affectionate and sensual. She knows exactly how to turn a man on and have her way with him, and please him sexually, all while perhaps even making him indulge in her kinky fetishes even if he didn’t want to. She is the type who could take a completely heterosexual woman and transform her into a lesbian having wild sex with her. She is the type who could take a normally Dominant man and seduce him into submitting to her and become his Domme and make him actually enjoy it and come back for more. But she is not just a manipulative person who can work her way into anyone’s psyche and make them want what she wants. She can also connect with others emotionally and romantically very well too. However she doesn’t always want to, sometimes she just wants to have her way with someone sexually, and she will. She knows how to get in touch with others on a deep sexual level and connect with her sexually like no other. She knows how to elicit men’s fantasies and fetishes and bring out all of their hidden desires and create scenarios they have always dreamed about but never been able to actually act out with any woman. She is the type who can get even the most conservative people to break taboos and do things they had never dared, or even get completely married men to cheat on their wives, perhaps even leave them for her. And she can turn vanilla men onto super kinky things that they would have never done if she hadn’t convinced them. Though she can even be manipulative and when stirring up men’s emotions, and even develop feelings of love for her…And then use that against them to get them to do things that they would otherwise know they shouldn’t, but are too caught up in their feelings for him.
She is the type who can use her sexual powers of seduction to social climb and/or make her way up the corporate ladder. She could also be involved in hypergamy. And so the downfall of this type is that if she becomes unethically manipulative, she can create drama for herself, and even engineer her own doom, since success that is had through manipulation, deceit and trickery never lasts, and everything will eventually come toppling down on you. Cleopatra is one of these types, and her life was full of drama, hardship, consequences, and assassination attempts because of her manipulations of men for power. However ethically, the Seductress is the type who just wants to give others the gift of pleasure which they have been deprived of. To open themselves to the wonders of sensual experience. They are the savior of the sexually frustrated repressed conservative types, who they can transform into the natural sexual beings that they really are, even sexual deviant kink masters! And she can connect with men emotionally and be an amazing lover if that is what she wants. This is the Cassanova archetype in feminine form, and her love life is an epic romance like that we see in the movies, but it can exist in real life. In fact this is a great archetype to embody which is the most general and able to be combined with any and every other one most easily. In a submissive this is the type who knows how to present herself in the most alluring ways, and can seduce and arouse any Dom she wants, even if he is already committed to others. She knows how turn Sadistic Masters into givers of pleasure. And she can get the sex she wants, when she wants it from her Dom. So this is one of the most powerful archetypes and if it sounds good to you go ahead and step into it!
The Sensualist
This is the one archetype that does not usually stand alone, but should be combined with other archetypes because the sensualist is more about what she does and not who she is, and could seem superficial or lacking in real character if used alone. This is someone who is extremely focused on physical pleasure and creating sensations of various kinds. She is a charlatan and can turn physical existence into a very wonderful thing by introducing stimuli of all different kinds and producing an intoxicating experience. This is a very powerful thing to be able to do in dating. Indulging a man’s senses in as many ways as possible, as much as possible, and creating a sensual experience and dynamic with a man will lead to an amazing sexual experience, and perhaps a very passionate relationship. Just make sure that you do not seem too superficial or become a slave to your own sensory pleasure like a drug addict. Simply be a person who enjoys indulgence and sensory stimuli, and is very affectionate and sensual. Use nice smelling perfume, nice clothes that happen to feel very soft and pleasant to the touch, go out on very fun, exciting and indulgent dates, feed him exotic food and drink, use aphrodisiacs, back at your apartment use incense, play sexy music, cultivate a very romantic atmosphere at your place with a lot of pleasant and sensually oriented imagery, have a very comfortable couch for him to sit on and soft luxurious bed sheets, use sensual touching and erotic massage, perform great oral sex on him and use advanced sexual techniques on him to give him new sensations that no one has ever given him before…even multiple orgasms (which yes a man can have, and only a sensualist is the pleasure master who knows how to give them). When you create a whole new level of multi-dimensional pleasure for the man to experience you will have amazing sex life because one pleasure will lead into another pleasure, which will lead into another, and so on. Just make sure that you do not seem superficial or too caught up in physicality and like you actually have a personality he can connect with and some depth of character, and that you aren’t just some prostitute there to sexually service him, and you will actually be able to create very passionate relationships. In a submissive this is still simply called a “Sensualist”, and is an amazing archetype to be in because it brings the most pleasure.
The Shamelessly Sexual
This is a female version of what women refer to as a “player” in men. She is very promiscuous and knows that there is nothing wrong with living in sexual abundance, and so she does. She has a lot of sex and is very skilled at making it happen, especially since she is not extremely picky about who he does so with. This is a woman who is completely sexually liberated and unashamed of her sexuality and has no problem with showing it. She is totally sexually open and will express her sexual intentions comfortably and confidently anywhere and any way she wishes. He is very good at turning social situations sexual and leading with her sexual comfortability. The one danger is that she may often get “slut shamed” and experience some social reprisal, which can at times affect her sex life, since she doesn’t care about it and just lets it happen (which politically speaking, she should). Another danger is that she may come off to others as being indiscriminate about sex, like she just has it with anyone, which may give them a bad vibe or make them worried about catching an STD. She also may at times not know when not to be sexual, and can act socially inappropriate, and is the type who may have sex with others in the workplace and jeapordize her career. But if you can embody this archetype and still focus on being able to be socially comfortable and calibrated, and make people feel like you are not being sexual in the wrong ways at the wrong times, you can achieve sexual abundance as this archetype. Just make sure that you use condoms, and try to be choosy about your partners and don’t be afraid to have high standards. In a submissive this is the “slut” type, and is the best way to get the sex life you want.
The Corrupter
This is the type of person who people do things with that “was so wrong but felt so right”, because indeed, it is doing something you feel is wrong with this type of person that brings you to new heights of pleasure. This is the type who brings more pleasure to the taboo than you have ever imagined, and makes you want to do things you don’t normally want to do. The corrupter is a very sexually liberated adventurous woman, such as a “femme fatale” type or a Domme, who really enjoys exploring their sexuality guys. They especially enjoy doing this with inexperienced or naïve types, or conservative types. They love the feeling of a conquest and of corrupting someone who is completely vanilla and turning them onto what they think of as taboo. They would love to take a boys virginity…or get that hot repressed business man to leave his boring wife for their much more passionate and epic sexual relationship….or take good catholic church boy or priest and unleash his hidden taboo desires and turn him onto BDSM and make him a deviant sexual freak!…or take a nice sweet straight girl and get her hooked on pussy and turn her lesbian and make her dump her boyfriend!….or take a macho guy and turn him on to being dominated and fucked with a strap on! And due to their sexual freedom and openness they are able to really elicit a guys kinky side, even if it was something that he had always kept hidden and was barely accepting of in herself, like bisexual tendencies for instance. And this is the type who could get a bicurious guy to take that leap and have a threesome with another guy with her…and do more than just double penetrate her, but even watch the two of them fool around together. The corrupters unconditional acceptance of human sexuality in any of its expressions and experiences is inspiring to those who are socially conditioned to be sexually frustrated, and really just want a wild sex goddess who can liberate them from that state and give them the sexual fulfillment they want. The corrupter is not evil or devious. They are an initiator and a pleasure giver. Someone who opens doors and offers fulfillment that people have been denying themselves. They just happen to be very seductive and persuasive about it so that even a conservative type or someone who is badly repressed will open up sexually and try new things.
It is their ability to give pleasure and take full responsibility for making the sexual experience happen that makes people comfortable with relinquishing responsibility to her and allowing him to take the lead and introduce them to new experiences. She connects with the side of a person that is unfulfilled and curious about their sexuality. She elicits a person’s unexplored sexual fantasies and hidden fetishes that they have often been ashamed of and feel are so taboo that they would never have been comfortable enough sharing them with any other kind of woman but her. However all people secretly wanted was to be able to feel unashamed of them and be able to experience them freely without the moral conundrum. And this is what the corruptor gives them the gift of. She shamelessly turns sexual fantasies into a reality and in a way that brings them so much pleasure that they are no longer concerned with the idea that they are “taboo”. She is able to get people to try new sexual experiments that they would have never thought that they liked, and get them to like it. The corruptor can take a young religious virgin altar boy who had been saving himself for marriage and turn him into her sex slave and have him sucking on the heel of her boot calling her Mistress along with her other minions in no time. Once she brings out the part of their sexual persona they had always repressed they can even get addicted to the fetishes she introduces them to. This is a dangerously powerful archetype to embody because if you are unethical or have some sort of evil intentions you can really hurt others and that can bring some very bad karma upon you, which will be damaging to your own psyche and lifestyle. You do not want social reprisal in your community because you have become reputed as this type, and known to do very unethical things. So when being a sexual corruptor, make sure you are doing so ethically, and with the best interest and pleasure of your partners in mind. If you can do that this is a great archetype to embody and will give you an incredibly wild and epic sex life. In a submissive this can be a fetishist, slave, masochist, or even what is called a “Smart ass masochist”. This is the type of sub who can bring out the kinkiest side in all men and get them to experiment with fetishes they never would have.
She simply has the power to seduce and arouse people by getting them caught up in the thrill of her epic sexcapades that she brings them to the point that she can get them to do things that they normally would have considered “dirty” or “nasty” like engaging in “water sports” (peeing and playing with pee). For men who are already seasoned Dom’s, this sub will get them to do things that are so kinky and taboo that they are beyond even their limits. The types of things they would have never dreamed of doing with any other sub, suddenly become wild and thrilling to do with this sub. She can get the kind of Dom who is really just a part time Dom, or role play Dom, to suddenly become a sadomasochist, or to experiment with incest play, or rape play, or anal fisting, or having a threesome with her and another guy in which she gets double penetrated by them. This is the type of sub who will also release all of a Dom’s most primal dark, and even evil and sadistic urges and turn him on to torturing her and maybe even blood play. And the power in it is that she does this by making it fun, exciting, and most of all pleasurable for the men she seduces. Indeed, through her fetishes, she is able to make her victims much more orgasmic than they normally are. And after a sex session with her, she leaves people thinking to themselves, Wow, holy shit, I can’t believe I just did that! That was so fucking wild and crazy…and hot! And it was so wrong, but it felt so right! I’ve got to go confess my sins! Haha, there is no doubt that this archetype is one of the most powerful of the seductive/erotic archetypes, just be sure to use it wisely because bringing out a sadistic side can be very dangerous, especially with someone who is not trained in the art of torture. Some masochistic women who like corrupting the untrained into doing things they haven’t before have found themselves accidentally strangled or beaten to death. So consider yourself warned if you are a corrupter type of sub!
The Domme (Female Dominant)
This woman is basically the female version of the male Dominant. There should be no real difference in this based on gender, only on personality. So if you wish to learn about this archetype then you may do so by going back to the men’s section and reading about it there.
So now that you know what personality archetypes you fit into, and which ones you want to, you can begin to embody them more completely to become a better lover and effectuate the love life of your dreams! But this is only the first step! Next is to engineer your own personality type and sexual identity from the ones you fit into naturally, as well as the ones you want to fit into more. Which you can do with actual fun psychological exercises in my new Sexual Identity Work Book for women which this article is actually an excerpt from!
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