Master Your Dating – Part 3: Closing The Deal!!!
And now it is time for the final part of this 3 part series on Mastering Your Dating, bringing you to the most climactic topic (literally) that is “Closing the deal” with your leads. Here we will discuss how exactly to “close” a lead, when to try to close a lead, the closing rates you can expect, and other dynamics involved, such as the logistics involved in lead generation, conversion and closing. If you did not read the previous article, you can do so by clicking this link here now.
Part 3 – Closing!!!
Setting The Foundations Of Closing
The first real lesson I have to teach you, in the spirit of doing full justice to these theories and practices, is that your close relies upon your open. The best way to reduce flakes is to run a better set. Understand? So you can’t be half assedly generating leads and then wondering why they aren’t converting or closing. You must be doing well with your lead generation in order to close well. You must be opening well and running good solid game on your sets in order for the phone numbers you collect to be SOLID, and able to be converted rather than flake out on you.
But once you have got solid game that you can open sets with and generate good leads from being a hard closer is about constantly generating them as much as possible over periods of time and honing in on the right ones in your conversion practices, and managing your time, energy, and investments in practicing lead conversion and trying to close.
YOU CAN’T SPEND ALL YOUR TIME ON ONE WOMAN UNTIL SHE IS YOUR GIRLFRIEND! IF A LEAD IS NOT CONVERTING AND IN THE PROCESS OF CLOSING, WHERE YOU KNOW THAT CLOSING IS GOING TO HAPPEN SOON, THERE IS NO REASON TO INVEST ANY MORE TIME IN TRYING TO CONVERT/CLOSE THAT LEAD THAN ALL OF THE OTHERS! YOU MUST SPREAD OUT YOUR EFFORTS AMONG MANY DIFFERENT WOMEN SO THAT THE ONES WHO ACTUALLY ARE GOING TO CLOSE, CAN!
So now that I have drilled it into your head that you must manage your time, energies, and investments properly, I am going to teach you exactly how to close your leads effectively and quickly (Assuming that you are gathering them properly so that they are in fact live leads and not dead leads.)
There is a reason why most of the case studies I teach from were women who did not make it easy for me, because most high value women are not easy. Now contrary to that you will meet women who you can have sex with right away, and women who will even pick you up, if you are playing the numbers game and going out enough generating enough leads, once in a while it will happen. But you certainly cannot count on it. In fact what you can count on, are high value women not being easy to get. Because they have so many men who want them, they can be very choosy, and thus they have a rigorous screening process, so if you want to get the highest value women out there, you need to have good social skills, or in other words, “good game”. This means you need to know how you can make sex happen with the women who have the most difficult sexual selection process to pass through.
Once you can do this, then you will have become a master seducer. So in order to teach you these valuable skills I am going to continue to use illustrations of women who did not make it easy for me, rather than the women who converted easily and who I naturally connected with. Because that is really the only way to properly teach you how to practice the form of lead conversion and closing that is seduction. Because if I were to try to teach you an “Easy way” based on examples of women who it was easy for me with…you would become highly frustrated once you went to go use those techniques and found that women who are high value and easy at the same time are actually hard to come by, and that I had not actually imparted any real knowledge or skills to you. So I will continue teaching you conversion and closing methods that will work on even the most difficult women.
Taking Risks and What To Do When in Dating…and “Closing”
It’s sometimes hard to know what to do in any situation, and which leads to follow and invest in, because oftentimes it will be a choice between spending time/energy in one of two leads, which can be difficult, and you will not often know which one you will be able to close with, you just have to pick the one that is most viable. However sometimes you make the wrong decision. Sometimes the lead that seems most likely to close doesn’t, and the one that you wouldn’t have expected to close will. And sometimes you will miss out on a lead that would have closed by investing in a different lead. That is just part of the game. You have to just do the best you can and try to make the right decisions of how to play it. I sometimes think about what would have happened if I had followed other leads in the set rather than the one I did…but I didn’t…and sometimes the game can seem random and chaotic, like you may not have any control over your conversion rates and which leads you close…and that the ones you expect to close don’t and the ones you don’t expect do…and the ones you expect to convert and be long term end up falling off the radar right away sometimes, and you’ll look back and remember the short time you spent with them and be glad that you had the skill set to close them in the short time that it was logistically possible, as that is a skill that only a Master Seducer has. And with proper phone game you will be able to have the pictures to remember the romantic moments you spent with a woman, and the best chance of converting the lead longer term if you want to. But sometimes you just can’t, which is why you must ALWAYS BE CLOSING (whenever you have the chance).
Be ready for anything! As long as you are playing the game, you will get all kinds of results! You may have a great time generating lots of leads one week or two and have none of them convert! Or you may have many leads convert but not fully close, but only do a minimal close (like a date close or a kiss close). Sometimes you may go through a dry spell where you are going out trying to generate leads, but just aren’t able to! And that’s ok sometimes, as long as in the big picture you are consistently gathering leads, you will be able to deal with the ups and downs, because as consistent as you can try to be, things will always fluctuate, and that is the very reason we must try to be consistent, so that you can deal with the natural fluctuations of the “market”. And as long as you are not letting it affect your positive proactive attitude, which is the most important thing, you will be closing a healthy percentage of the time.
You may even find that on some days when you feel like you are stuck in a low point in your numbers, and feeling really anxious about approaching, you just go out and approach one beautiful healthy looking prospect (a 9 or a 10 on any scale) who responds really positively and turns out to be a model who doesn’t work much and so she has literally nothing to do that day and so you end up gaming her with some routines and really hitting it off and bouncing her to an “Instadate” and then spending the rest of the day with her bouncing around! This was an actual situation I found myself in, with this beautiful model, who, after I closed and followed up with, I found that the lead did not continue to convert into fuller “closes”, as I actually had not pushed things as far as I should when I had the chance! And unexpectedly, another guy swooped in and did so himself before her and I could have a second date…and put them into the dating frame so that she did not feel like she could see me anymore. Sad, but I will always remember the special day we shared together.
But this situation just goes to show you that you have to do what you can, when you can, to escalate things romantically. Just take the risk to make it happen! What have you got to loose? Your friendship in return for the romance or sexuality you want with her? Because even if she rejects you you are only going to be in the same place you were anyways…so you literally have nothing to loose. And most women will reject your escalation very politely and painlessly. I’ve literally never been embarrassed by a girl I was trying to escalate on. So just do it! Take the risk! You only have something to gain out of it!
Logistics and Conclusion
In Conclusion this is exactly how dating works, its all just about networking, generating leads, converting leads, and closing. And what this really is is logistics. How are you systematizing the way in which you play the game to generate the highest quantity and quality of leads for you? How are you keeping ALL of your bases covered in your dating life so that you have leads being generated from as many sources as possible? How are you organizing your pickup process from open to close so that women proceed along a certain line? How are you organizing the leads you have in your life in a specific hierarchy and chain of command that you take through the conversion process? How are you arranging your conversion process to process your leads from your phone, onto a date, and into your bedroom? How are you overcoming any obstacles in your lead gen/conversion system and the process of generating leads and leading them to the close? This is all about logistics my friend. How you organize the people in your network and lead them to the place you want them to be.
So to begin this process just start with approaching anyone who looks attractive or interesting to you, making humorous banter which leads into flirting and then into “dating conversation” and the “courtship frame”, then qualify, build rapport, and number close. And there you have one solid lead. If you cannot get through all of those phases and have to emit some due to time constraints, logistical difficulties, or lack of engagement or interest on either of your part, you can still number close, but know that the lead will not be as strong of one, and will require more from you in the conversion process, and still may not convert.
Once you have some strong leads then you just have to follow up and in most cases regain interest, figure out her schedule and work out the logistics of meeting up and do it! Simple as that!
Then from there you have manage the lead by maintaining her interest to make sure that she will actually convert and not flake out on you, you have to meet up with her on the date and continue to engage, flirt, build deeper rapport, and escalate from there…and then work with the logistics of going from the meetup location, to another location, perhaps another…and then your house…and from your living room to your bedroom and bed…and all the while from friendly social interaction to romantic one, to sexual one.
You see it is all about logistics. And not just with each individual woman too…but the logistics of organizing your lifestyle and systematizing the way in which you play the game and gather leads to be most conducive for the leads you want to gather, and gathering as many as you possibly can? And how are you organizing and systematizing your lead network to process them most efficiently? You see there are several levels to the logistical system of playing the game so that you can have the best results possible.
However once you can do that you will be able to get the greatest quantity and quality of women that you want in life! But what does it take to do that? PRACTICE! Lots and lots of practice my friend. You have got to get out there and start practicing immediately, and continue to do so consistently over time without an end in mind. Just keep on practicing and generating leads and eventually you will have the abundant love life you want.
So good luck in generating and converting those leads! I wish you a very high conversion rate and many many closes! Just remember not to set your goals too high and be outcome dependant – you must remain outcome independent and just enjoy the process of meeting and talking to women. When you can be in the moment with them you will have a much better time and go much further with them than if you are focused on achieving some goal with them (believe me women can sense when you have a hidden agenda). Even with the best logistical system in place your conversion rate will not rise too far above double digits. Even Grand Master Pick Up Artist Paul Janka, who has a famous Formula and Logistical System for his abundant sex life only has an 11% conversion rate. But the point is that he meets over 20 women each week, number closes a portion of those, over time has built up a large network of hundreds of women he is talking to and keeps a running spread sheet on the information of so that he can maintain his relationships with them. He then schedules 3 dates per day to come over to his house, some of which flake (you will get a lot of leads who flake out on you, which is why it is best to invite them to your house and not out on a “date”), and some of which do not result in sex…however in the end playing these numbers and working with logistics does cause a steady stream of sexual interactions in his home. And that’s what an abundant sex life comes from!
It’s really all about Logistics!
As long as you are out generating leads and following up, some will convert. Many will convert naturally, some however will require more effort on your part to convert them, but if you follow the methods I have laid out in this lead conversion model and as long as you are approaching and opening enough women and putting in the efforts to convert your leads, even if they are not easy you will be able to date an abundance of beautiful high value women! You have seen in this book exactly how to convert the variety of leads you will get, from easy and natural to difficult and complicated…you can convert and close with any and all types of women. So just keep generating leads and practicing good conversion/closing tactics and with proper due diligence and management of investments you will achieve an abundant and prosperous love life that you have always dreamed of having!
And other wise – good luck my friend! I hope that all of your romantic/sexual desires may be fulfilled by all of the most beautiful women you want to have. And if you happen to have any trouble in doing so, make sure to contact me for a free 20 minute consultation. Or you can completely get the dating, love and sex life of your wildest dreams today by getting the E-Book “Sexual Abundance: How To Generate A Ton Of Leads, Convert Them Into Dates, And Close HARD!” which these articles are actually excerpts from! Just clicking this link here to get your copy now!