TLR – How to meet the people you are attracted to!
When it comes to dating the thing most people are concerned with is how to meet prospective mates and “pick them up” as they call it. And they should be concerned with this, as it is the most important point in any relationship, and the most important part of dating, because without meeting people, you can’t get into a relationship with them. And meeting people is not easy, in fact it can be very very hard. It is often seen as socially inappropriate to go up to a total stranger and talk to them. In fact we are taught and socially conditioned to avoid strangers from a young age, and that approaching someone with sexual intentions is improper. However nothing could be further from the truth.
In actuality the ability and proactivity to go up to complete and utter strangers who you are attracted to and start meaningful conversations with them geared towards courtship is a beautiful thing. And it is one of the best skills to have which will create a very healthy active social and sexual lifestyle for you, which is one of the most important things you can do in your life to be a psychologically healthy and happy human being, as well as a successful one.
The problem is that most people do not know how to do this. They worry about being awkward or seeming creepy (if they are guys) or unladylike and “slutty” (if they are girls). So the first thing you need to do is let go of those ideas and all the social conditioning that says that you shouldn’t approach, and any attitudes that say that you can’t. Once you allow yourself to realize that it is in fact the right thing to do both for you and the person you are approaching, you will be able to do so more confidently. But you must also have a sense of self worth and confidence in your self as a good mate too. When you can approach someone with confidence as someone who has value to offer in your personality, it does not really matter what you say and you do not need any sort of clever “pickup lines” or anything like that.
However it is a good idea to know what to say to the men/women you will be approaching ahead of time, so that there is no chance of your mind going blank when you see an utterly stunning, awe strikingly gorgeous prospect. For there is a great tendency for us to be rendered speechless when we see someone so beautiful. There is also a tendency for us to get nervous and not know what to say, or stutter and stumble upon our words. So it is very important to, just in social networking, have specific conversation starters that you can use to meet people. Once the conversation is started it can just naturally develop and go from there. But you need an opener that you can rely upon even when you are awe struck or intimidated by an extraordinarily attractive prospect. This could be as simple as just going up and introducing yourself. If you have the confidence to do so that can be one of the best ways. However you may not know where to go from there, and it is also good to have an “opener” that will lead into further conversation.
Your opening lines should not be too complicated or elaborate that it is hard to memorize or execute. You do not want a routine to be too elaborate or complicated because then you wont even ever really be using it in the way you planned when actually talking to women, because conversations are not set things they have their own volition and tend to flow in different directions. So you want your routine to be fairly general and minimalistic so that it can be adapted and added to in order to suit any interaction. The main thing you need is how to approach the girl, open a conversation with her, and then transition and engage her in an in depth discussion. From there it will be up to you to talk to her naturally and actually get to know her and share yourself with her and see where it goes.
Some great ways of opening a conversation are:
-“Hi, I saw you from over there and thought you looked very X (nice, interesting, etc) so I just wanted to come and meet you. I’m (insert your name here), what’s your name?
-“Oh my god I love your hair! It’s so X (quality of the hair – curly, wavy, shiny, etc), what’s your name? I’m (Insert your name here).”
-“Hey do you have the time? Just kidding I just wanted an excuse to come meet you, I’m (insert your name here).”
-“Excuse me can you stop that please?” (Her – “Stop what?”), “Stop being so hot, it burns my eyes, haha just kidding, I’m (insert your name here), what’s your name?”
-“Hey let me get your male/female opinion on something me and my friend were just talking about…”
So write down 3 – 5 opening lines (or transcribe the ones from above but in your own words) that you can use that will be charming and charismatic as well as congruent with your own natural personality which you think will work well for you and start interesting conversations. Then memorize them by reciting them in front of the mirror to make sure your delivery is good. Imaging doing this with your ideal mate and make sure you will not come across as nervous but can do so smoothly and confidently.
It is also a good to have an idea of how you are going to transition away from the opener, and have some other lines you can “stack” on top of this one to really get the conversation going and give it some momentum. You can have an idea of how a woman might respond to the things you say, and how you might respond back. You can even create a whole routine you can use, if you think you will be able to memorize something more elaborate it can be very useful. Just make sure that you do not make it so complicated that it becomes impractical because you cannot memorize it or it cannot be applied to just about any situation easily and naturally. And then after memorizing and practicing your opening lines or routines you can get right out there and start using them to meet prospective mates! And don’t wait, be proactive and take that initiative!
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