Master Your Dating – Part 2: Managing Leads And Proper Conversion and Dating Practices
And now its time to get into the really heavy stuff – Managing your conversion practices for the best dating lifestyle and relationship development you can have!
Part 2 – Managing Leads And Proper Conversion Practice
What I am going to teach you in this segment actually comes from a very specific case study. This case study was with a lead that I generated through night club promoting, basically getting her phone number just upon meeting her for “business purposes”. There was literally no chit chat, no banter, no building rapport, I was outside of my nightclub trying to drive traffic of the right people into the club, and trying to pull the most attractive high value looking people out of the line and get them in quicker, and get them on my special guest list for the future so they would return. This is something I would do as quickly as possible, there was absolutely no rapport building involved. However, I would then wind up with a bunch of names and phone numbers of super hot high class women I could follow up with…But there was one problem of course…I was still a stranger!!
And whats more is that I had absolutely no personal reason to be calling these women. Our relationship dynamic was a business one. So while I was warm calling these women, it was hardly a step above cold calling. Many of them were drinking and wouldn’t even remember me. Most hadn’t really thought much of our interaction. And most, whether they remembered me or not, would not think I had any business calling them up to do anything except to invite them back to the night club for our next event. But that was not why I wanted to be calling up these women. I wanted to be calling them up to try to get them out on dates with me. Impossible? Fuck you. I considered it very possible. And so I did it…with literally ALL of them. Over a hundred leads got called up out of the blue by me to try to convert them into dates. Which is something you can literally hear the recordings of me doing in my Phone Game 101 program. But I will tell you this – it was not easy. But I was successful with a portion of the leads. Again, around 10%. And this woman is a part of that 10%.
When I called her to try to convert the lead that she was…it was really like I was starting from ground zero with another cold approach. It was not like following up with most women who have given me their number after we have gotten to know each other a little…in this case I was a complete stranger calling up another complete stranger under the guise of having a business relationship…however I was not doing so for business purposes, I had a hidden agenda: to build rapport. It was incredibly awkward for me, but I had planned out the conversational routines I was going to use and was intent to push through my social anxiety and execute my conversion strategy. And in spite of how awkward the situation was, I did so, because where there is a will there is a way. And I not only did it with this beautiful prospect, but with countless others, night after night, and was able to convert some of them into friends, and some into dates, and a few of those dates into sexual interactions. And it just goes to show you how if you have proper “phone game”, it doesn’t matter how little rapport you have with a girl, you could have absolutely none, and you can still convert her into a date and even a full close.
Now this lead was one that actually converted fairly naturally once I started going through the motions. I briefed her on the ostensible “business” front for my call…but then transitioned into interpersonal banter and rapport building. There was an obvious mutual attraction between us psychologically, however she was a very sexually reserved person, and difficult to flirt with, she wanted to challenge me and kept putting me in interview mode, so it is an interesting case study you will hear on my Phone Game 101 product on how I was able to use frame control to manage our dating frame and keep us out of the frame she was trying to put us in and keep us in a fun flirtatious one.
While I did close to a certain point on this date and was able to make the interaction sexual, there was some obvious sexual blockage in her that prevented her from engaging in natural romantic interactions even with a man she was interested in and had chemistry with. She seemed extremely guarded and like she had a generally bad attitude towards connecting with men on a deeper romantic level.
After the date when following up with her again and trying to schedule the second, she began to display what to me was unacceptable dating behaviors. And so I actually decided not to continue to maintain that lead and schedule the second date with her, even though I knew that once I got passed her sexual guard she was actually going to be a very sexually active woman to date, it just seemed like a serious red flag was being shown to me that was telling me that it would be a very unhealthy relationship dynamic. This was a woman who needed some obvious coaching and/or therapy on how to behave properly when dating and how to have a healthy relationship dynamic with someone, and while I was certainly qualified to do that for someone, she was not a client of mine. This was a prospective romantic partner, which means that she needed to be on the same wavelength as me when it came to these kinds of social dynamics…it is just not appropriate to have to try to school someone you want to date and have sex with on how to behave as an eligible romantic partner, much less administer any kind of therapy they need in order to be able to engage with you in a sexual way. You should not have to “fix” anyone so that you can fuck them. There is a reason why it is extremely inappropriate for a therapist to fuck his patient, because it is wrong to take advantage of someone who’s mental health is not right, and to take advantage of your role as their therapist. And for the same reason it is wrong to act as a therapist for someone as your method of trying to effectuate the romantic dynamic you want to have with them. And you certainly should not have to coach someone into a romantic relationship with you.
So what did I do? Well I filtered her right out of my leads. And this illustrates perhaps the most important aspect of lead generation – which is screening and filtration. Lead generation is about converting the leads that are best for you and what you want. You should not only be closing the leads that are closable for no other reason than that they are closable. You should be closing the leads that are best for you. Not all leads that are closable are best for you. So while there are many instances of leads that didn’t convert into dates or low level closes and not higher level closes, or didn’t convert at all, and that was unfortunate and something I would have liked. There have actually been leads that I have dropped because I realized that the woman did not meet my own criteria for a mate in non-physical ways (because her being hot is just not enough when you are living in abundance). And while this may sound crazy, you have to realize that with the proper lead generation, you will be able to live in such abundance that screening and filtration is in fact the greatest mechanism of practicing lead conversion. So you must be generating an abundance of leads, and then know what your criteria for the ideal prospects are so that you can convert the leads that are best for you and filter out the ones that you aren’t, otherwise the process will be totally random and you will end up developing relationships with prospects who are not healthy for you or meet your relationship needs. And that is what relationship development is all about, finding the right partner, which is ONLY made possible by lead generation and the proper screening and filtration methods. So know what you want and how to screen for it, and be able to be the one to drop the leads on prospects you feel do not meet your needs!
But you are probably wondering, how exactly do we generate and convert all these leads?
Well I’m glad you asked. You see with the right cold approach practices you will be generating leads every day, just be meeting them out and about in your daily life as long as you are approaching the women you find attractive! And with the proper lead generation, the conversion of a fraction of your leads will oftentimes happen naturally!
But that concludes this second segment of the dating mastery series. To continue on the journey to dating success, simply proceed to the next article by clicking HERE.